To(o) Girly Girl or Not to(o) Girly Girl; Is That the Question?

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I found this interesting question and answer in the Social Q's section of The New York Times.  I am interested in your thoughts on the question from Anonymous and the answer by Philip Galanes who provides the answer.  It should be intriguing to any of us engaged in the business of play.

Dear Social Q's,

My daughter’s fifth birthday is approaching. In the past, my parents-in-law have given her girlie, pink, princess-themed toys and outfits. I am not comfortable with the message they send and want to ask them to choose less-gendered gifts. My husband does not want to broach this issue because his mother is sensitive to criticism. But we must say something; our duty is to our child. How can I do so?


With respect to you (and “Dirty Dancing”), I disagree: “Nobody puts Baby in a corner.” Your obligation is not to prevent your daughter from ever donning a sparkly tiara. That’s just another corner. Your job is to make sure she feels equally free to reach for baseball caps, firemen’s helmets and astronaut’s bubbles (with proper ventilation). I am not worried about your little girl because she has a mother who is vigilant about protecting her choices. Lucky duck! Try thinking of your in-laws as covering the pink end of things, freeing you to help your daughter explore the rest of the rainbow.

2 thoughts

  1. I wonder what the little girl would choose, the important part is asking the child what they would like and NOT assuming we know what’s best for them. Because children change and grow so this year maybe all the pink glittery stuff is exactly what she wants and next year she may want army coloured skateboard!

  2. It is important to recognize the interest of your child and keep all options open. If they sparkles go for it, if they like sparkles and a baseball bat go for it!

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